Celebrate Being Single

Celebrate Being Single

This is for all the single people out there I must admit, I hate those kind of radio stations…the lovey smarmy ones. I really hope I don’t come across like one of those disc jockeys. It’s especially tough if you’re single. You may already know that I talk about the tough topics that no one wants to talk about: shame, addiction, eating disorders, sexual assault, drugs, alcohol. You know, the fun stuff. Plus, I bring humor into it because I have to. Comedy helped me heal. Musical comedy helped me stay alive growing up, seriously. When I fell into stand up comedy, it helped me tremendously with my recovery on many levels. Today, in the “love” month of February, I want to talk about how our culture shames single people. That’s why I believe we should use Valentine’s Day to celebrate any kind of love: friendships, health, teachers, pets, causes, charities, communities. Valentine’s Day can be about more than just romantic love and so often the “love” that is portrayed in the media is not real. It’s made up, and pretty dysfunctional. Have you listened to love songs…to the actual words? It’s kind of funny and also frightening that as a girl growing up and singing the lyrics, I was setting myself up for a lot of therapy about my relationships with men. Celebrate Being Single So I’ve never been married and I am a straight woman. I’ve been engaged twice and I’ve been asked a few times, but, for many reasons, I’ve never actually gone down the aisle. And I cannot tell you how many people have freaked...
The Path to Sobriety in College

The Path to Sobriety in College

The Importance of Early Awareness, Support and Education One of my best friends, “Mike”, has a son who is in college. I’ve changed their names in order to protect their privacy, but for the sake of this blog, I’ll call his son, “James”. Actually, James used to be in college, but is not currently enrolled anywhere. James was a good student in a rural high school. He’d been psyched to have the “college experience” in the big city of Richmond at Virginia Commonwealth University. VCU is considered one of the top party schools in Virginia, and it has plenty of press to prove those bragging rights. James started out strong with 5 As and 1 B during his first semester. Then he wanted more social opportunities, so he pledged and got involved with a fraternity. He spearheaded their big charity event and eventually became President of his fraternity. They even won National Chapter of the Year. James was taking on a full load doing extra service projects, leadership seminars, volunteering, and leading his fraternity. He felt the pressure to do it all. He started mis-using Adderall, which took over his life. This led to him taking more and sleeping less and less. He was drinking on top of using the Adderall, and had two alcohol related offenses. James had fallen in with the party crowd. He drove while intoxicated and got busted. Luckily he did not hurt anyone else or himself. James’ dad was supportive through it all. They had many conversations about judgment, choices and risky behavior versus his future. After the second offense, James had to choose...
An Unprecedented Settlement: Pass It on

An Unprecedented Settlement: Pass It on

Landmark Case Ruling Regarding Sexual Assault and Death As an expert on sexual assault and alcohol awareness and prevention, I was really affected when I read about Audrie’s case. It is an unprecedented settlement for sexual assault survivors. Hearing about Audrie Pott’s suicide, which was linked to being assaulted and humiliated, was heartbreaking for me. The news fueled me to go out and preach prevention and sexual assault awareness more. I believe that losing a child as a parent has got to be one of the hardest things anyone ever has to go through. I cannot imagine the pain, especially when the loss could have been prevented. What saddens me most is that the suicide received lots of attention from the media, but there’s been little attention about the unprecedented settlement that just happened. Audrie’s Story Audrie was 15 years old when she was assaulted by three 16-year-old boys in an unsupervised house in Silicon Valley. After they assaulted her, they drew on her naked body with a felt tip pen and then documented their “trophy” on Facebook and sent the pictures out to other classmates. Disgusting. I am still trying to understand why anyone would think that this kind of behavior was ok. What was their thought process? What kind of brain thinks that that is ok? Did these three boys have any mental illnesses? I am not making fun of mental health issues, but I am trying to wrap my head around how this could have happened. As if the photos and bragging weren’t enough, the boys continued to harass her with texts and more shaming online...

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