Celebrate Being Single

Celebrate Being Single

This is for all the single people out there I must admit, I hate those kind of radio stations…the lovey smarmy ones. I really hope I don’t come across like one of those disc jockeys. It’s especially tough if you’re single. You may already know that I talk about the tough topics that no one wants to talk about: shame, addiction, eating disorders, sexual assault, drugs, alcohol. You know, the fun stuff. Plus, I bring humor into it because I have to. Comedy helped me heal. Musical comedy helped me stay alive growing up, seriously. When I fell into stand up comedy, it helped me tremendously with my recovery on many levels. Today, in the “love” month of February, I want to talk about how our culture shames single people. That’s why I believe we should use Valentine’s Day to celebrate any kind of love: friendships, health, teachers, pets, causes, charities, communities. Valentine’s Day can be about more than just romantic love and so often the “love” that is portrayed in the media is not real. It’s made up, and pretty dysfunctional. Have you listened to love songs…to the actual words? It’s kind of funny and also frightening that as a girl growing up and singing the lyrics, I was setting myself up for a lot of therapy about my relationships with men. Celebrate Being Single So I’ve never been married and I am a straight woman. I’ve been engaged twice and I’ve been asked a few times, but, for many reasons, I’ve never actually gone down the aisle. And I cannot tell you how many people have freaked...
On Body Shame, Self-Love… and a New Year

On Body Shame, Self-Love… and a New Year

We all made it through another holiday season, and now we have to “face the music” - open the bills, look in the mirror. It’s a New Year. It’s a new you. This is the time when most of us make New Year’s resolutions. We make them every year, even though we know they don’t really work. I love this fact about humanity. There is a part in each of us that never gives up hope. We say to ourselves: This is the year… I’m going to finally… And you know what, some people actually do honor their resolutions for more than 5 days. I am not criticizing. I’ve been there myself, many times. I would like to, however, offer a different approach. First you should know where I am coming from, so let me give a bit of background about me, in case you haven’t heard my story or seen me speak before. Background on my body shame I was put on my first diet when I was in the first grade. My stepmother used to scream at me: “Elaine, you’re fat.” I’ve seen at the pictures of myself as a child, and I was never fat. I even had knobby knees. Everyone else in the family could eat whatever while I felt hungry and deprived. I started to obsess about food, not eating, over exercising, and thinking so bad about my body. I developed an eating disorder, and went from starving and purging to laxatives. Then doing crystal meth to lose weight. I have been a size 4 and a size 10. I know ALL about diets....

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