Stage Time, Stage Time, Stage Time

Stage Time, Stage Time, Stage Time

I’ve been reflecting on my journey as a speaker and I wanted to share my very first professional speaking gig with you. Now pay attention! Not only is this a story that speaks to your journey of a speaker, but it is also a living example of story telling - a skill that every great speaker must master! My philosophy as a professional speaker who coaches others on their public speaking on stage and camera is that we can all learn from everyone’s experiences: good and bad. This one was quite a ride for me! I met a guy named Napolean through a real estate friend who lived in NJ, not too far from me. He was a speaker who was starting to put together workshops locally and he liked my energy. So he invited me to speak at an upcoming event that he was producing. Napolean was charismatic and enrolling and I thought he was cool so I said sure. I did not ask a lot of questions because I was just thrilled to have the opportunity to speak! (lesson #1) I assumed he’d done producing before and so I committed to the date, took off from work, and I declined another gig because I’d already given him my word. (lesson #2) He and I spoke briefly as the date approached and I practiced what I was going to do. It was the first time I’d be telling my addiction stories out in public. I planned to weave in my jokes too, but this was a big step for me. I was excited but also terrified. I arrived at...
Drop the Rock

Drop the Rock

I saw that title and it pierced me in my heart. Drop the rock. Just love the simplicity of it. It made me think of myself and my clients and our “stories”. We get attached to our rocks, our stories, our attachments. I’ve been working with a client named Scott. He is just so much fun to be around. He’s a Brooklyn boy who grew up in a tough family. Scott has a fabulous sense of humor and is a great business coach. He’s never had problems selling products when he worked for other people, but when he started his own business, it was a different game to try to sell his coaching services — and Scott’s not alone. Learning to own our own value and sing our own praises is a whole different can of worms. And I have yet to meet an entrepreneur who hasn’t struggled with this at least a little. As we’ve worked together, he has uncovered his “story” about himself. He has this whole “Not good enough, imposter thing,” going on. We’ve also uncovered “that if he was truly a great coach, he would have already made it,” even though his coaching business is literally only a few months old. I share this with you, dear reader, because I’ve been there and I imagine that you may have been there too. Or maybe you’re there now. We’re human. So therefore, we have limiting beliefs we don’t even know about! And they’re running the show. This is one reason I love coaching: being coached helps you take the blinders off, so you can see. A...
Sexual Assault, Healing & Joe Biden

Sexual Assault, Healing & Joe Biden

I love Joe Biden. And I am not really political. He has been a huge part of the “End Sexual Assaults on Campuses” revolution. I admire him for his stand and for what he’s been through personally while serving his country for most of his life. He lost his wife and nearly his children from a car accident before he was sworn into office years ago. And he recently lost one of his sons to brain cancer. And still, he trudges on, speaking passionately about making college campuses safer and transforming the rape culture that influences our society. And I applaud the investigation teams for releasing the colleges who are on the list for violating Title 9 issues and for not handling sexual assault cases correctly. These are all huge steps forward. And I hope and pray that they are making a difference. The average assault victim is severely affected for at least a few years and usually for the rest of their lives in some capacity. Not to mention the family and friends who are also affected. It is painful to watch someone you love go through being violated, feeling the shame, depression, anxiety, lack of confidence and the post-traumatic stress syndrome. I read in an article that one school was very slow to move, for fear that their reputation would be damaged. That is a huge disconnect. The point of higher education is to help students reach their highest potential and go out and help change the world. Ok, and for many students, they just want to graduate and be able to get a good job in...