Check out the #1 secret to boosting the impact you want to make with your work

Check out the #1 secret to boosting the impact you want to make with your work

Does this happen to you ever? You’re cruising along in your life or business and then you’re asked to write something or give a talk? Or maybe you need to come up with an email or a blog; and there’s a deadline, but when you sit down at your computer…you’re like….. BLANK PAGE OF PAPER! You think inside your head; I got nothing! Oh no! I’ve been there, and so many others have too. Believe me. And after years of doing “The Artist’s Way” and reading “The War of Art”, I’ve learned to trust my creative process and use my tools. And I’ve learned to make sure that I’m reading inspiring memoirs as well. I just finished reading Glennon Doyle’s memoir, Love Warrior, and I was blown away as usual by her. A friend gave me her first book last summer. I took it on a plane trip, and within in the 2nd page, I was so drawn in, I don’t even remember the flight. This one went even deeper into her vulnerability and her journey towards healthy intimacy. I won’t say anymore in case you want to read it. I bring her up because she has a powerful message and because her style is so raw and real. And this is why I love teaching story telling, creating content, and vulnerability while still being credible. To me a GREAT writer or a coach or a healer with a powerful message or process, is able to articulate what their reader or client is feeling, thinking, or going through so well, that it’s like they reached through the page or...

Bob Newhart…. This Could Go Anywhere

So, you may not know of Bob Newhart. He was a brilliant comedian and had a hit TV show a while ago, called The Bob Newhart Show. He played a psychiatrist and hilarity ensued.  There’s a famous scene where a patient comes to him to get help on this obsessive fear that’s taken over her life. I don’t want to spoil it for you so here’s the clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw Ok, so he’s a bit harsh and it’s comedy, but at the same time, I feel like there’s a lot of truth to that. I work with speakers, authors and coaches to help them feel comfortable on camera and on the stage.And they are doing amazing work with their clients. And they are human, so they have their own “stuff” too. We all do. We all have blocks we’re working on to let go of. And here’s the thing, it’s really hard to put yourself and your work out into the world if you’re beating yourself up all the time in your head. It’s a contradiction. So I invite you, instead to catch yourself when you’re being self critical and say: “Stop it,” like Bob Newhart. And I challenge you instead to focus on your purpose, and who you want to help. Focus on your big WHY. It’s a lot more fun to focus on that, than all the reasons why you shouldn’t make that video or call about the talk you want to give. I hope you laugh at the video. Laughter is such a great release and a way to raise your vibration. It’s FUN! PS. Click here to subscribe to my YouTube Channel if you found this helpful and...
Space, Wiggle Room and a Little Bit of Love

Space, Wiggle Room and a Little Bit of Love

I’d like to tell you a story, since that that’s how we learn the best. And most of us enjoy a good love story, right? I coach men about relationships. And I coach women as well about relationships, health and fitness. I’ve been a marathon runner, a personal trainer, and a workout nut for over 20 years. Clearly, I am a type A personality…in case you haven’t guessed. One of my clients, named Claire, came to work with me. She was burned out in her life. While she was succeeding in her career and in good physical shape, she was not satisfied or content. Her dating life was ok. She worked out several times a week, but just felt like she was on the treadmill of life. You know that hamster wheel feeling? The one where the little guy runs and runs on the wheel, but doesn’t get anywhere? Yeah, we’ve all been there. We had a session together, and we kept going deeper into what was really going on with her. After all, on the outside, she looked just “fine” according to most people. She was not satisfied, or “lit up” about her life. Whatever You Resists, Persists As both a coach and one in the transformational world for 19 years, I know that whatever you resist, persists. So at first, she did not want to go there. She kept saying she was fine. However, my job as a coach is to get into what’s going on underneath that fine exterior. This is the juicy part of my job. After doing some work, Claire realized that she was...
Shame About My Body Transformed My Worldview

Shame About My Body Transformed My Worldview

  While I don’t want to tell you this story because it left me feeling pretty icky, I think that it might help someone. So I will press on with hope that you don’t think less of me - and if you do, please don’t tell me. I grew up terrified of athletics. Gym class was horrible for me - from kickball to trying to learn layups. I felt self conscious about my body because I had boobs starting in the 5th grade. Kids called me a slut because I was new to school and physically developed. I didn’t even know what that meant. Instead of athletics, I played piano and read a ton of books, and I rode horses. I didn’t play sports. In fact, I was the only person in my family who did not play soccer. A College Crush When I was in college, I was enrolled in the musical theatre school. We had dance classes every day, along with singing and scene study. During that time, I developed a crush on one of the few straight guys at the school. He was a bodybuilder, and so several of us started going to the gym after school to work out more. His name was Michael, and he taught me how to lift weights and how to warm up and cool down. This was in Dallas, where your body image was and still is very important. One day, a new trainer at the gym called me into his office. I didn’t realize he was trying to drum up business for himself. And I wasn’t sure what was...